Life is about trial and error. By trying, we learn, and by failing, we learn. In my approach to socializing with people, I have tried many things—combinations of behaviors and responses to different situations. So, there are two rules I would say I apply when it comes to establishing and maintaining relationships with people.
All day long, we expose ourselves and our brains to a constant stream of stimuli. Our senses are constantly bombarded, and it has become an integral part of our daily life. We listen music, we have conversations with people, we have activities – leisure or work- we read, we watch tv, we see social medias…so all day long we are exposed to images, sound, content. The immersive nature of activities often allows us to temporarily escape reality. As we escape reality, it’s crucial to acknowledge the potential impact on our mental and emotional states. The thing we tend to ignore is how our brain takes all that things and maybe underestimate the effects on us.
A few years ago, when I began actively working on my mind, I discovered numerous theories, perspectives, tips, and logic that I had never heard about. It was not just my world, so I was simply not aware of all this. One of the things I’ve learned is a kind of logical chain from the situation to the emotion. Initially, it did not seem that logical or useful, but now I confess that I use the rationality of that chain to manage some of my emotions, particularly the ones that could be considered as distractions or nuisances.
It’s a thing I’ve never really thought about, but somehow that idea blows my mind. I am a big fan of getting to know oneself, and I can only encourage you to self-study. I think it is mandatory if you want a life aligned with your true self; you have to know the truth about yourself, and that means connecting with your inner self and listening, then making decisions.
In discovering myself, I was focused mostly on sensations, thoughts, emotions… but I never focused on energy levels. And that is the idea I want to share today.
According to the Western world, today is the last day of the year. This date is synonymous with celebration, so we’ll eat and drink, perhaps until we can’t anymore, dance all night, watch fireworks, hear words from the president, and everywhere we’ll hear “Happy New Year!!!” The world becomes effervescent. But just because it’s a massive celebration doesn’t mean we must absolutely adhere to it. Why not question this festive injunction a little bit!?
Do even the simplest things seem complicated to you? Do they take on a weight, a magnitude? Did you not need this additional thing to manage? You no longer have the time, and a To-Do list that grows day by day. Just thinking about it gives you anxiety. Worse, you can’t sleep anymore! Your life is starting to be just one thing: this never-ending To-Do list that devours all your time, energy, and willpower.
As children, a large part of us goes to school. There, we learn to read, write, and count, and then we delve deeper. We learn about sciences or languages, sometimes civic education… but we don’t learn one important thing for our whole life, we don’t learn to listen to ourselves, we don’t learn to know ourselves.
You want to change jobs but don’t dare apply anywhere? You’ve had the project of becoming your own boss or changing careers for a long time, but you don’t take the leap? You dream of leaving everything to live elsewhere, but you don’t take the plunge? What is stopping you? You want to separate but don’t dare to talk about it? You agree to do things even if you don’t like them? What drives you?
One thing that particularly interests me is emotions. We always hear about them, but in recent years, the subject of emotions has taken on a completely different dimension. I wish to invite you to reflect on emotions, ours, yours. It’s an invitation to change your perspective on them, to see them as friends, and perhaps to appreciate them a little more.
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